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[lollardfish]

The food issues with Nico have hit a crisis point. It's very upsetting and we're seeking professional help.

This is the first time I've felt completely helpless in regards to Nico in a long time.

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[ann-totusek.livejournal.com]

I was a total b*tch. I'd give my daughter the opportunity to express an opinion, took that into consideration, made what I made, put it in front of my her, and if she ate it, great. If not, I'd let her know when the next meal was. She wasn't special needs though, and I don't know how that would work with a special needs kid.

My son, on the other hand (also not special needs) is an absolute monster, mostly due to his father's influence I think. I wanted to take the same tack with him, but my husband is such a soft-hearted guy [read "spineless"] that if the little guy didn't want something he'd make him something else over my objections. Now when it's dinner time, the nine year old is a tyrant. Well, with his dad, anyway. When dad's not home, I don't have a problem with him. He knows that I cook once. Period. OTOH, with him as with my daughter, I take his preferences into account as I plan a meal if I am actually going to cook. Unfortunately he's a PITA to get to bed for much the same reason- dad refused to allow him to self-soothe as an infant, so now he's up disturbingly late on some weeknights. I told my husband he was doing our entire family a disservice, and again he refused to listen. At one year of age, I told him that as that continued, I was refusing to have anything to do with bedtime. I was not going to end up dragged into the power struggle that he was setting up. So for 8 years I haven't been around for bed time unless husband isn't home. Which sucks, cause I really like story time and cuddles when he's not home. And the kid stays in bed too.
Best wishes with figuring out your little guy.