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[lollardfish]

The food issues with Nico have hit a crisis point. It's very upsetting and we're seeking professional help.

This is the first time I've felt completely helpless in regards to Nico in a long time.

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[lollardfish.livejournal.com]

He does say yes or no. One way to solve the problem is to present him with every possible food item until he signs yes. OTOH, that conflicts with one strong set of parenting advice (see Sharon's comment below. She's right, that's usual). The communications, though, are REALLY clear. What they aren't are nouns (items of food) that would communicate need and allow us to communicate back (three bites of chicken, then cookie) in the usual parent way, although I've been trying to create that vocabulary.

We've certainly tried things along with your method. He usually enjoys feeding me his dinner, although today it's been crying at the sight of the food he doesn't want, then all smiles and beaming. It's a manipulation, but again, knowing that doesn't make the response clear.

[cakmpls.livejournal.com]

Well, Sharon says "healthy choices only," and I said "a tiny bit" of candy or such if that's what he wants--I don't think these are too far apart, and you could go either way.

But it looks to me as if K., Sharon, and I are saying pretty much the same things, and that's an awful lot of parenting years there.